When I had my daughter 16 years ago, I don't think I had a true understanding of the role of godparents. My daughters godparents love her dearly; but when I asked them, I only thought of the fact they would be a "special" auntie. But with Randy, I put a LOT of thought into it. I'm not sure if it was the difference between being a 20 something mom then and a 30 something mom now; or if it was the difference between having a healthy child at birth and a very sick child at birth. I know it was a big decision that I put a lot of thought into.
I considered a few people. I considered my brother and sister in law. They love him very much and I'm sure they would have been honored. I considered my girlfriend who is a single mom of one son. She is smart and takes her job as a parent very seriously. In the end I chose my brother and sister in law. Although the others had good qualities, his godparents have ALL the qualities: they love him, they are smart, they will put work into raising him (if need be), they are young, and they will be starting their own family soon.
Asking them was really emotional; they were newlyweds. And I really needed them to understand what a big commitment this is. I had Randy at 36. He has an "older" mom (and daddy is older than mommy). For most godparents their "commitment" ends at age 18; I'm not sure that this will be the case for Randy. I'm not sure if they will have to be responsible for him the rest of their lives. They understand this and are up for the challenge. Now that's love.